Not Being So Hard on Yourself

Summary: Being hard on oneself may sound spiritual (I.E. I just want to be more like Jesus!), but without learning to give ourselves grace, we can call fall into guilt, self condemnation and self hatred.

The past few weeks Jesus has led me to make time on my day off to “review the film” What went right, what went wrong and what can be changed.

As I sat down for the film session, I was ready to hear all the things that needed improvement.

As I closed my eyes, Jesus rattled off 10 areas where I did an excellent job and a whopping 1 area to improve upon. It helped to totally change my perspective of God.

I couldn’t help but laugh, here I was going into the film room with a mindset of what I was doing wrong and instead God flips the mindset into what I was doing right!

Totally God!

The more and more I understand God’s nature, he isn’t about berating me into make changes. He does it in a kind and loving way and it is for our benefit!

Romans 2:4 says,

“Or do you think lightly of the riches of His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness of God leads you to repentance?”
Repentance simply means a changing of one’s mind. So in the example above about the film session, I repented of falling into self condemnation and hatred into loving myself and giving grace to myself right where I am at.

Prayer: Father I thank you for every reader. I pray that you help remind each reader of how kind and loving  you are. Holy Spirit, help us not be hard on ourselves for the sake of sounding spiritual . Help us to recognize where we are doing what is right and make note of it. And if we need a correction, you do it in a kind and loving way. In Jesus name! Amen!

Comments and Application:  Are there areas in your life where perhaps you are too hard on yourself? How can you show more grace to yourselves in those times. I would love to hear about it in the comments below!

Joy Despite Circumstances

Summary:

Today was a day where many trials were overcome with the help of God.  It felt like everything went “wrong”, but trials continue to remind me of the importance of us resting in our true identity in Christ!

Today was my first day back at work from Christmas as a canvasser with a pro life organization. The temperature was below zero.

Not a problem! Gloves…check. long johns… check. thermal wear… check. I’m ready to go!

Until I get to the vehicle and the car won’t start.

With help from family, was able to go to an appointment that was hoping to have. However, it took too long for the appointment because I had a doctor’s appointment because I am overcoming a cold (No, God did not give me the cold!)

As I went to get the prescription filled, the insurance coverage didn’t cover the medication. Whatever!

Finally, there was a sense of normalcy at work.  Then later I had a challenging talk with someone that would have crippled me in the past. I felt God’s power rising up in me!

In the evening was able to jumpstart the car, and drive off to a church event only to find out it wasn’t being held! So I got back to the car and the vehicle wouldn’t start again!

At this point I could do nothing but laugh and have peace!

I could tell my mind was being renewed.  James 1: 2-4 says,

Consider it nothing but joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you fall into various trials. Be assured that the testing of your faith [through experience] produces endurance [leading to spiritual maturity, and inner peace].  And let endurance have its perfect result and do a thorough work, so that you may be perfect and completely developed [in your faith], lacking in nothing.

Instead of resenting the trials, I am learning to embrace them. It’s part of our identity in Christ that says we  are more than conquerors (Romans 8:37).

Long story short, in the past any one of these events could have caused me to drift, but as God continues to mature us, we not only win, we overwhelmingly win!

And when multiple trials get thrown at you and you keep on going, that’s an excellent sign that breakthrough is near!

Prayer:

Father, thank you for the amazing Dad that you are! We are so grateful! In Jesus name, I release healing and restoration every readers  mind and every part of us Restore us to our true identity of being more than conquerors. Also, in Jesus name, I release God’s provision to help everyone overcome challenges. Holy Spirit continue to help strengthen our inner beings with endurance to run the race you have for each of us. Amen.

Application and comments:

How do you rejoice when trials come your way? Please share about it in the comments below.

Claiming Your Inheiritance With God

Yesterday, I was meditating on God’s Word about us being a heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ (Romans 8:17).

And on a spirit and heart level, it hit home deep! I was curious to see what this meant.

The definition is, “someone who has been appointed to receive an inheritance.”

What?! How amazing is that?

God owns it all and it all belongs to us because we belong to Him.

So since God owns it all, why do humans have a tendency to want to work extra hard? The secret is to enter into a place of rest in God. It is resting with God, where we can find out the steps God wants us to take (Psalm 4:8). It is in rest where we can surrender to God.

For example, if a person is in $50,000 in debt, natural reasoning is to work overtime/ get a second job to pay it off.

The more I understand my position in Christ, my identity in Christ, and all the spiritual blessings we have in Christ, the more I realize that belief of getting the second job/working overtime to pay off the debt is the result of an unrenewed mind.

The second job/working overtime are options, but they are not the only way.

Using the $50,000 debt as an example, let’s try this as an approach:

“God, I am going to continue to be faithful at work where I am right now, but working extra hours means less time for me to spend alone with You, with family, serving Your Kingdom and enjoying life outside of work. I need balance in life.  

Father, as an heir with God and co-heir with Christ, in Jesus name, I claim an inheritance to pay off this debt so I can continue to partner with you in advancing the Kingdom of God. Thank you Holy Spirit for guiding me to make decisions to advance the Kingdom of God. Amen.”

Now start asking God what already belongs to you through His son Jesus!

Prayer: Father God, I thank you for all you are doing in each of our lives. I pray that each reader who reads this becomes so rooted in thier identity in Christ and can walk out this amazing life out with confidence. In Jesus name, I impart wisdom to each reader for any challenges they are facing and ask you to double that wisdom. Thank you Holy Spirit for always comforting us. I pray all this in Jesus name. Amen.

Building Bridges

I look forward to building bridges with my relationship with God, myself and others.

Since around April I have been going to a “Overcome Bipolar” small group and a “Supernatural Power of Transformed Mind” workshop each week. And they have been a great one two punch!

It’s been fun to see the mind renewed! (Romans 12:2). It is so fun to replace old thoughts with scriptural truth! It goes something like this:

Old Thought: In chains

New thought: I am redeemed by the blood of the lamb! (Ephesians 1:7)

Old Thought: God is angry

New Thought: God is kind and merciful! (Psalm 103) 

Old Thought: sinner

New Thought: I am a saint! (Romans 1:7)

Old Thought: weak

New Thought: Be Strong in the Lord and in His Might (Ephesians 6:10)

Old Thought: bipolar

New Thought:  But we have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16)

I could go on and on, but meditating on His word about what God actuallty says about us continues to be amazing. It is so important for us to know our position in Christ, identity in Christ and all the spiritual blesssings we have in Christ.

Claim your true identity in Christ! It’s yours for the taking!

And let me say the “old self” burnt some bridges with some friendships.

Fear of commitment, not submitting to authority and not being able to trust caused the “old self” to want to run at away when things began to get serious.

I am so grateful and thankful that our God is a God of restoration. I look forward to partnering with God in restoring those relationships.

Prayer: Holy Spirit, thank you so much for being here and Father I pray that people claim  their identity in Christ. Help us to call out the gold that you see in them. When some feels broken, remind them that they are your masterpiece. When someone feels defeated, remind them they are victorious in Christ. When someone doesn’t feel blessed, that they are blessed with all the spiritual blessings in Christ. I pray this in Jesus name. Amen.

World’s Design for Life vs. God’s Design for Life

World’s Design for Life at its Best.

Go to school. Graduate from high school, Go to college. Graduate from college. Get a job. Get married. Have kids. Watch kids get married. Have grandkids. Retire. Travel a little. Die.

God’s Design for Life at its Best:

Matthew 6:33

“But seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you”

Romans 12:2

“Do not conform to the ways of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve God’s will-his good pleasing and perfect will.”

Which system are you in?

It’s Harvest Time Part 2 (Grace vs. Shame)

Friday, I began the process of letting go the fear of death through a technique called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing).  EMDR is known for being the equivalent of 12 sessions of talk therapy.  Towards the end of session, the leader asked us to imagine the doors in the back of the room were opening and asked us who we saw.

I saw Jesus and I started bursting into tears.  It was a catharsis moment that I had been waiting for so long. The next 24 hours took their toll on me.  You see this was the fear and shame I have been hanging on for so long.  The process is now under way of burning these weeds in my life.

Saturday afternoon, there was a deep root of shame in me..  You see I have a very critical inner voice that questions nearly every move I make “Should I of made that purchase?” “Should I of said that?” “Did I do this the right way?”

Now I know on a rational level, I can’t continue to live a shame-based life. However, my emotional mind hasn’t caught up yet.  I can quote from Romans 8:1 all day which states, “There is now no condemnation for those in Jesus Christ.” But it doesn’t stop the inner critic in my head.  I look forward to removing that shame in the coming weeks and replacing that with grace.

You see shame says that love is conditional.  It can be based on performance or achievement.  Grace says, “Ok Marc, you had a tough 24 hours.  It’s ok that you did and it makes perfect sense based on the facts of the day.  I love you anyways. I love you when you are at your best and I love you when you are at your worst.”

Grace is ultimately how God sees each and everyone of his children.  You could make the worst decisions for the rest of life and God would say, “I love you anyway my son/daughter.”.

Side note for my future wife, if we have two daughters, their names have already been picked out. Joy Kutylowski and Grace Kutylowski.

Prayer: Heavenly Father thank you for sending Your son Jesus to die on the cross for our sins.  Thank you that Your love is not conditional.  You paid our sins debt in full.  Thank you for replacing our shame with grace.  We love you Lord in Jesus name. Amen.

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